SELF FORGIVENESS

"How unhappy is he who cannot forgive himself."

Publilius Syrus, 1st century BC Syrian slave/Latin writer

William Blake said, "It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend."

Even more difficult to forgive ourselves.

More important too for if you can't forgive yourself how can you ever truly forgive anyone else.

Them, you, let it go.

YOU'RE SORRY, GOOD, NOW WHAT?

"Repentance is another name for aspiration."

Henry Ward Beecher (1813-1887) American politician.

Our request for forgiveness includes the suggestion, if not the specifics, of what we intend to become.

What will that be for you?

UGLINESS TOO

"The beauty seen is partly in him who sees it."

Christian Nevell Bovee (1820-1904) American author/lawyer.

The next time you find yourself judging someone for what they are or are not, something you don't like, look to see how much of that is also you.

You may be a little surprised, disappointed in yourself, and hopefully more tolerant of the other person.

LIMITS, YES, BUT WHAT LIMITS?

"A man is not good or bad for one action."

Thomas Fuller

17th century British clergyman/author

And yet we often judge others as though they were.

How are you when it comes to giving others second (third, fourth, etc.) chances?

How many are too many?

I'LL (NEVER?) FORGIVE YOU!

"Like fragile ice anger passes away in time."

Ovid 

1st century BC Roman poet

Or should.

If you're still nursing a grudge, if not outright anger, towards someone else, to what end?

Doing so is childish.

I'll Never Forgive You

"Everyone should keep a mental wastebasket, and the older he grows, the more things he will promptly consign to it."

Samuel Butler

17th century British poet

I propose a minor but I believe critical change to this.

" . . . the more things he should promptly consign to it."

We all hold onto too much, particularly perceived slights.  

What's the point?  Let the small stuff go.

Forgive And Forget?

"If I die, I forgive you.  If I live we shall see."

Spanish proverb

If you actually die, why not, you're not around to suffer the consequences of whatever wrong was done to you.

But what about in business where "death" means many things other than actually dying?

Mistakes: Forgive, Forget or None of the Above?

"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget."

Thomas Szasz
Hungarian born MD, Author

All employees including management, make mistakes. What managers and those they manage do about it varies greatly.

Regardless of whether you are a manager or one of the managed, what do you do?